“My name is Deanne Ackley. I have a story, as we all do. Mine is not better nor worse than yours; it is just different. I found my way here through hardship, love, courage, and support. I am where I need to be today and want others to have the same opportunity.
I am onto my 36th wedding anniversary: spiritual, inquisitive, and engrossed in contentment. I travel and lecture the world, delving into the exploration of my own humanness and yours. I am on fire about internal family systems, quantum physics-entanglement, attachment, mindfulness, and neurofeedback.
After 11 years of owning a Montessori school, teaching developmental stages and parenting classes about healthy attachments, and owning an interior design firm for 25 plus years, I concluded I could glam up the outside and talk about the inside, but not explain why so many of us remain steeped in chaos and rigidity.
This prompted me to dig deeper. I attended the University of Southern California and worked briefly with child protective services and community centers in mental health and addiction. I attended multiple courses on attachment to see if I was missing skills. It became clear that for contentment to be found, secure attachment was essential, but people were too stressed to achieve the desired result.
In 2000, I attended Duke to learn Mindful Awareness so I could help people de-stress, also known as regulating the nervous system, before I taught attachment. I saw people becoming calmer, but not always achieving the full embodiment of peace. I was happy to see improvement, but not satisfied.
Most of us instinctively know to live by the golden rule, "Love thy neighbor as you love yourself." When we fail to love ourselves, the golden rule fails us too. When people are detached from themselves, it must be addressed first. To authentically attach with others, we must be clear about who we are first. When we get confused, it results in feeling triggered by others, resentment, jealousy, anger, guilt, ridicule, judgment, distrust, and other unwanted behaviors.
Internal Family Systems leads to intense exploration, which not only reveals parts of ourselves we may find disturbing, but also the most beautiful, loving, generous, and pure parts we may have forgotten or never acknowledged. Once the entirety of the 'self' is understood and integrated, it automatically takes us to a more compassionate place, large enough to hold love for ourselves, each other, our creator, and all our imperfections! It relieves the barriers and opens new neural pathways for brain plasticity, a form of rewiring the brain.
To make the changes long-lasting, I implement neurofeedback as a conduit for success. The benefits become embedded, and people begin to operate from a higher level of positive energy, which, in turn, opens new doorways to life experiences.
Relationships calm, triggers diminish, and squashed aspirations come back with vigor and confidence. And, I get what I love the most - to witness growth, appreciation of life, and gratitude for choosing a field that changes the world one person at a time!”
• Licensed Professional Coach
• Certified Neurotherapist
• Peer Specialist
• Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
“While I am proud of my thirty plus years of self-employment and various accomplishments, I take most pride in the recreation of my character traits. I picked up on some pretty bad behaviors, and these stood in the way of my aspirations with family, career, and spiritual goals.
I find when targeting the aspects I wish to eliminate, and working in harmony with a master plan, quantum entanglement repeatedly proves to be true. I envision the goal, use quantum entanglement skills, and before I know it, I am living in intention and in corresponding momentum!
I am not saying that all dreams come true. I am saying, when we add positive energy to goals and subtract the negative, the odds are in our favor and the trajectory is more inclined to meet the objective.
Today, I pass forward these tools to those who are driven to experience mastery of their own outcomes. I believe we can have a blast while we are here, and we should shoot for it. I travel the world, challenge the status quo and conform to where I am required to oblige. If you want to join me in this endeavor, contact me and just say the word.”
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